But I bought all of this stuff, what do you mean it doesn’t count?

I know you are a well-organized human being who keeps track of every red cent that leaves your pockets and you still have receipts from 1988 in a vacuumed sealed pouch laid out in chronological order and when it comes to your kids you’re twice as anal. I get it well guess what Sr., Ma am you can keep track of every money order you ever gave to the custodial parent for child support and every receipt for every purchases you ever made for your kid(s) all the way down to a stick of gum, and your receipt and money order combined can add up to an substantial amount of monthly child support even more than an average court ordered amount. So now you’re well ahead of the game right? well Let’s recap, you’re a great father you and mom came to mutual agreement on a fair amount of monthly support for the kid(s) that you pay with checks and or money orders to prove you’re not a deadbeat and you still buy other wants and needs while keeping up with all receipts and best of all you don’t have to put the third party courts people in your business, so you think your batting a grand huh? Actually This is so far from the truth and in fact it is almost the worst case scenario to be in due to the fact that the court will not give you a lot of credit for any provable monies for support that’s been paid out without going through the family child support system they will look a dad right in the eyes and with a straight face and tell him that all his receipts, money orders and checks are just gifts that’s right dad, “nice bookkeeping sir but sorry this is just a bunch of nice gift and there is no way we can consider it to be equal to child support” what I am saying is if you paid the mother directly, the same amount of money that the courts would enforce you to if you was paying it through the family courts system  that the courts will not give you the same credit for supporting your kid(s) if the government didn’t get a cut. That is pretty much the case. In some cases you could be forced to pay, back child support even with hard copy evidence showing you were given support to the mother for your kid(s), you get taxed by the government when you pay child support but you can get taxed ten times worst when you try to leave them out of the equation. You would think that the government would be appreciative a guy taking care of his responsibility up to the point to where the parents stopped seeing eye to eye, relieving the Gov. of any assistance for the kid(s) and leaving the taxpayers burden free. But the bottom line is when you pay mom direct its no money in it for them so they make example out of these guys so that other dads that separate from the mother will run to the child support enforcers top speed to start the taxing process which in turn mean more money for the government.